#8
May 16, 2008 mch0601
By making this film, I am trying to understand more about my relationship with Liam. The obvious subject in my film is his subaru, but more importantly my film is going to be about how and why his car made us closer. How I grew from not caring what kind of car he had, to knowing and caring so much about this car because it made me know more of who Liam was. I think that in this film I will be showing more how by him having this passion, we grew closer, and it connected us in a different way. Because he loves this car so much I started to catch on more and more because it is something that he cares a lot about, which makes me care about it too.
The main emotion I am feeling from this topic is love or passion. I used to think that the WRX was just another car, but now I think that if you love something so much it becomes a part of you, it helps define you. I think that because Liam loves his car so much it has truely become a part of who he is. Because this is such a big part of who he is I think that in a way it has become a small part of me. When you spend so much time with someone, you start to become more like that person. I think that there were times that I didn’t think too much about this car, but my first time driving it, and the first time I saw “the wave” or heard about these Subaru meets is when I started to see that this car was really important to so much people, and so I strated listening more to what Liam wanted to tell me or show me about his car, and it became a big part of my world.
What I know now is that other people and things can help define you. Liam has been a part of my life for so long, but in a way we became closer because of his car, and my shift in how I felt about his car. Once I started learning more and wanting to know more about his car it was like he could talk to me about so many more things that he cared about. Because I took the time to listen to what he was saying it made us closer.
I think I want my audiences to learn about listening in relationships. How that the more you listen to someone the better your understanding and relationship is with that person. Also, I want viewers to learn that when you love something so much it becomes a part of you, it helps define you.
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1. fulwilem&hellip | May 16, 2008 at 1:07 pm
Michelle,
I like how you’ve thinking about the role of listening in relationships. It sounds like the Subaru brought the two of you closer together and gave you common ground (a topic) and even a kind of language (information about Subarus).
I’m wondering what some of the defining moments were for you in all of this? When did it go from being kind of annoying and odd to being something that you could get on board with and even enjoy?
I’m always interested in the different kinds of communities/activities/groups that people choose to identify with. It sounds like Liam is part of this Subaru world (that comes complete with hand gestures, insider-lingo, rallies, etc.) and that as a result of your relationship, you’re now becoming part of this world too. Are there things you gain from this new community alliance? Things you lose?
Megan
2. kmiddleton&hellip | May 16, 2008 at 2:08 pm
Hi Michelle—I think you’re finding your way toward where you stand in this film, as opposed to it being about Liam or his car. Like Megan, I think that that you’ll need to show us how very OUTSIDE of all of this culture you were (the wave, the excessive amounts of information about the car; you might, in fact, see if Liam would be willing to talk to the camera about the car—what is it about it that really makes him enjoy it?). Then, I think you need a scene or two that starts to show us when you started to listen, as you describe above. Was it the moment when you drove the car? Was it some other time? [Another way of paraphrasing what you've said above is that it doesn't matter WHAT the topic is, but rather that you listen that matters...For Liam, it happens to be the Subaru!]
Finally, however, I’d echo Megan here; as you’re thinking about the end of the essay, think hard about what kinds of questions or issues remain to you after reaching this conclusion. You’ve taken the time and energy to enter into a world that’s foreign to you in order to have a better relationship with your boyfriend. As a viewer, I’d have to ask myself whether Liam has done the same thing?